“The idea behind imperfectionism is to not care so much about conditions or results, and care more about what you can do right now to move forward with your identity and your life.” Stephen Guise How to be an Imperfectionist
Powerful stuff right?
Any time we try something new, we set ourselves up for failure because we want the big, quick results yesterday. But learning to do something differently requires patience, practice and repetition. How many times did you fall off your first bicycle before learning to balance and ride it? How many times did you drive outside of the lines before learning to keep the car straight? How many posts and tweets did you screw up before learning how to navigate the app? We didn’t learn these things in one day, so why do we think we can change our relationship with food so quickly?
Patience, practice and repetition. Want to change your relationship with food? Patience, practice and repetition.Want to learn not to eat your way through the fridge and pantry? Patience, practice, and repetition. Want to learn not to eat just because you’re bored, tired, stressed or lonely? Patience, practice and repetition.
You have to know right from the start that you’re going to fuck up and that is ok. It’s expected. That’s part of learning something new. It doesn’t mean you’re broken. It doesn’t mean you’ll never figure it out. It doesn’t mean you’ll never lose weight. It doesn’t mean you’re not worthy. It means you’re flipping human. It means that when you fuck up, you have the opportunity to learn how to make better choices next time. If you think you have to do everything perfectly, you’ll never lose the weight. If you don’t decide right now to be imperfect, you might as well not even start.
By deciding to be imperfect, you’re giving yourself the space and freedom to make the mistakes without beating yourself up. You’re giving yourself the chance to try again and do it better next time. You’re giving yourself the love and kindness you deserve.
“Your best chance to reach your big dreams is through small goals in quantity.” Stephen Guise.
You must set small realistic goals. If you start where you are at and make one change, what would it be? Drinking 8 oz of water in the morning before you reach for your coffee. No second helpings. Leaving two bites behind at dinner. No snacking while preparing dinner. These were the small changes I made that helped me lose my last 30 lbs. Doesn’t sound like much, right? But they worked. Start with one small realistic goal and do it over and over until it feels comfortable. Then when you feel ready, layer in another small realistic goal. Screwed up and went back for seconds? That’s ok. Next time you’ll have the awareness to be more mindful.
Are you willing? What’s the one thing you’re willing to do now imperfectly to get to your goals?
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